One cannot study the book of James and not be considering their speech. Men are guilty too, but it seems women succumb easier to an unbridled mouth. I do anyway. While we as women should know when we are gossiping or slandering there are other ways we engage in idle chatter that may not be so obvious:
–To get a good laugh.
We are talking with a group of friends and something is said to which we can respond with an improper or sexual innuendo. We know we shouldn’t say it but out it comes and so does the laughter of others.
–To support irritable feelings towards our husbands.
Unfortunately, we as women can end up feeding off each other and our time together results in being nothing but a griping session about our husbands. I believe there are times when we need to vent with a trusted friend about a situation with our husbands. A friend that will point out the good things about them and remind us of God’s grace extended to us so that we can extend it to others-even our husbands.
–To validate our actions or make another person look bad.
Have you ever had a disagreement with someone and though the issue was resolved you felt that you just had to share it with someone else? Though it is over, we want affirmation that what we did was right. Sometimes we might share it as a prayer request with the intention of making the person look bad in others’ eyes.
As a woman I have been guilty of each of these at one time or another. I am sure I will be guilty of them again. Just as James admonished us in his epistle, I say: “Sisters, these things ought not to be so.”
Help us, Lord, to be women of the Word and women who speak productive words that build up and not tear down.
Is there anything you would add to the list?